To often, it seems, we forget that the people we interact with have their own lives. Their social relationships have far more impact on their behavior than anything you or I might say or do. This is one of the tenets of The Four Agreements. Nowhere is this more important than in public relations. PR is a lot more about psychology than people realize.
Regardless if you're trying to influence someone or just to break bread, it's important to see the world through their eyes, not just yours. Here are two easy ways to do that.
First, if they're on Twitter, check out cTwittLike. Using this tool you you can see what any given Twitter user might be facing (or not) in the way of noise when they log in. Here's what my friends' social timeline looks like.
You can also do something similar with Facebook by viewing how any of your friends see your profile. This is handy if you don't want someone in your circle to see a small something like "Jessica is now single." To see how others see you, visit this page and start typing in your friends' names.
It never ceases to amaze me just how careless some people are with their passwords. These days we all need to be smart and vigilant. Farhad Manjoo put together a simple way to secure your online accounts. It has only two steps.
"Start with an original but memorable phrase. For this exercise, let's use these two sentences: I like to eat bagels at the airport and My first Cadillac was a real lemon so I bought a Toyota. The phrase can have something to do with your life or it can be a random collection of words—just make sure it's something you can remember."
and then...
"Turn your phrase into an acronym. Be sure to use some numbers and symbols and capital letters, too."
During a recent interview with Personal Branding magazine, the writer asked me what I thought about this amusing quote, which is the inverse of Andy Wharhol's more famous one. I am not so sure. The world is filled with extroverts and introverts so maybe there's a balance somewhere. Your view? (I find it ironic by the way that this tweeter uses Obama on a stage as his Twitter background.)
AP: "The techniques used by the (Twitter) attackers highlight the dangers of a broader trend promoted by Google Inc. and others toward storing more data online, instead of on computers under your control."
AP covers the Twitter security issues well, but honestly, why doesn't Google simply give us more control over passwords? I should be able to say I need to sign in to Gmail with two passwords, Google Reader with one, Docs with three including a picture, etc. Give us more control if we want it and it won't be as hard to snag passwords.
Mobile apps are fantastic but most don't tell you what data they are collecting, especially those that connect to Google. Three such apps for the iPhone are iNote, GV Mobile, and Byline. All three sync with your Google account but only Byline tells you how they store your login info. The others, as far as I can tell, don't just yet. Ego, an app that tracks your Twitter and blog stats, takes a better approach by having a privacy policy right in the app. As these apps grow in sophistication and sync with the web they better tell us just what they are collecting and how. Now I imagine all three of these apps mean well. But the lack of a privacy policy on their web sites seems like a mistake - one they can easily correct.